We Have Arrived!

We have all come a long way, with our experiences, learnings, realisations and adventures. And during all this, we have shed a skin and grown a new one. The morphosis of life!

As kids, all of us imagined that we would become something. That something is so imaginative that it put us in a state of pleasure, everytime we thought about it. I am sure most of us, if not all, grew up with dreams of a wonderful future in which each one did what WE wanted and not what our parents or elders wanted us to do. That was the only objective - with tiny details here and there! Doing whatever we want to do without any inhibitions and restrictions. LOL. This was all about growing up! Our idea of growing up!

But, in reality, have we all grown up to become THAT person!? I am sure we didn't have so much clarity back then. And even if we did, it all looks like a child's dream now. A happy place with lots of happiness around.
Yet, why did we all get sucked into this life with everything else in greater measure than happiness?

Does that deem happiness relative? If yes, why so?
What makes you happy? Like really happy? Flabbergasted happy? That you become that child again who is confident that he/she will grow old to be more happy than he/she already is! Relatively, when were we more happy?
I like the grin that's following!

So, in chasing this concept of happiness, we seem to have lost a better part of opportunities, moments and wonderful experiences which didn't seem like one when it arrived, indeed! And amidst all of these, we still keep dreaming of an unknown future which could be holding anything for us, not necessarily happiness only. The constant effort to stay happy and hence perfect is consuming us in bits and leaving us in shreds of dissatisfaction, inadequacy and despair. Now, this is not what the child-version of ourselves said to us!

Whom are we fooling, but ourselves, in trying to believe that one day I will arrive, I will be perfect, I will be wholesome and accept everything with utmost happiness!? Not until you realise these are all states of minds which can be achieved anytime, anywhere and in any phase of life.

What seems more important is to not be so full that we do not even have an appetite for what might arrive. Because when it does, it does bring along with it another quantum of learning. Today, we have everything at our disposal and most of the things are under our control, and yet are we still chasing happiness!? What about the child in us? Where did we lose him/her?

As we grew we also grew the most vivid weed called fear. And that fear is what has engulfed us for long and hard that we dread anything unfamiliar and unknown. The child in us was always fearless, who had no bounds whatsoever and the world was our oyster.

Today, we might be enough for each one of us, yet we do find solace in each others company, only because what is shared is what is gained. It's never too late to shed that fear of unattainable strength, of crossing horizons and reaching greater heights. We still can! We are never inadequate. We do not need an external validation in the form of a person, relationship, job, wealth, praise or accolades. Finding solace in anything external, which temporarily elates us, is not the solution, but an addiction.

Nobody is perfect. Nothing is unachievable. No time is a bad time. It's all a state of mind. A little love and a little pampering is what each one of us need from our ownselves!

Because what is not found within is not found anywhere else! Find it, it's there!

P.S.: Be nice to yourself!